"This Century" - Brander Raven McDonald 1999
(live to my phone - 2024)
My dear friends, fam, loves whom know this reality... learning the term "cut off game"... the products of "ghosting"... and the long term sting it can result in the soul.... especially those of my generation that were raised that relationships are about equitable accountability, recognized interdependency and authenticity, human dignity and celebratory respect for one another, it can be a shock... now the residual of this present generational attitude is that you can be seen as a product of selection, providing and servicing only a need and thusly can be easily cast aside when the need or relational investment is left "unmet"... those that are "givers" (which used to be considered a virtue) are now left behind... now today's "takers", manipulators, selfish and "lovers of self" (in a selfish self seeking only means) are the crabs that end up at the top of the bucket... the disrespect to those that carry a virtue of a bi-gone day are seen now as irrelevant, creepy, out dated and even threatening... where in the past generations a suggesting towards a friend or love about their behavior that might be deemed respectful and need for clarification is now seen as "triggering" and "un-woke" and disrespecting of "boundaries"... now no one is allowed to agree to disagree... no one remembers the verbal and non verbal communication of growing together with another human being... today's milieu also engages in the negative branding of "isms" (negative branding and eugenic reminiscent behaviors) such as divide in order to conquer... and finally the sad "pièce de résistance": gossip... now used as a form of easy exits and blame casting, so as to paint a negative or questionable light on a character... in order to give one's self today an easy (non accountable relational) exit from another individual... personally, as an empath and a giver, I have made a life time of sacrifice in attempts, both gloriously fruitful and also disastrously futile... whether in the vocational career paths, ministerial - spiritual, Indigenous cultural, friendship and loves in life... yesterday's realization in all this was recognizing the deep understanding and healing after a 3 year period of deep loss - of a glorious love that understood and lived the healthy nature of this balance to "warrior" up for others... especially with a life partner, family and good deep friends whom "got it"... the choice for me in moving forward is too leave the dross... and to whatever run way I have left, to love those that work at the art of love in a sincere respectful reciprocal manner... something obvious... intentional... at my age there is too much time waisted in playing the mystery game of ghosting, innuendo and just plain spite in any relationship... and for those that know me this is not my Motus Operandi but usually one of deep care and respect for others... yet in reflection I have now decided to care for myself... so if you are up to the challenge to being a fellow traveler, then you are more than welcome to walk beside... sometimes where deep respect even in silence is a sign of power and healing... saying this out of deep love and respect for all... lets not forget the magic we have and how we can affect each other's lives in such a powerful way by walking gently with each other... and having the courage to be authentic... to quote that old vernacular: "I'm just saying"... love you...
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